9 Month Adoption Update

When we were added to the waiting list to be matched with our children, we were made aware of the waiting childrens list. This is a password protected site that our agency put together for children who do not match any of the families specifications. They may have an illness, disability, or are older than any of the families are inquiring about. We noticed a sibling set on the list, the girl was the same age as Jack and her brother was a year younger than Eli. The list plainly states that they do not adopt out of birth order, so we left it at that.

After the first of the year our agency mentioned in their weekly update to check the waiting children's list. We did and again saw the sibling pair still waiting. They had been waiting for a year. I started to pray about them and if we should pursue adopting them. I also asked Melanie to start praying. After a couple months we decided that there wasn't any reason not to move forward. In April, we sent in a form requesting more information about them. We were told that since the children would be out of birth order they would not let us adopt them. We continued to pray that we would know if we should push the issue or that God would provide a family. Three weeks later we had our answer. They were matched with a family. We were very excited for the children, but also sad that they wouldn't be coming home to us. It was also a confirmation that we are supposed to continue waiting.

We've been on the waiting list to be matched with our children for 9 months now. Somehow that number makes it harder. For the last month or so, we've been sitting at number 5 on this list. Being number 5 on the list in most cases would mean being matched very soon. However, in our case it could still be a long wait. The 4 families ahead of us on the list, are also waiting for siblings. Some are waiting for 3 and under, 4 and under, and some are waiting for a specific gender combination (boy, girl or boy, boy etc.). We are waiting for 5 and under either gender, so it's possible we will be matched soon. It could be tomorrow or a year from now. All the unknowns can sometimes really get to us!

Brent.